A Babe in Total Control of Herself

A woman that is in total control of herself, is a very appealing trait. She recognizes who she is from the inside out, and does not settle for anything less than the best in her life. If you are in her life, then you are one of the very best. Anyone who has the chance, needs to take her, as she will quickly make way for someone who is more worthy of her time. This kind of girl pursues what she wants in life, and does not stay at home waiting for the perfect man to call, or the perfect job to land in her lap. She creates the life that she truly desires. She is obviously a strong woman, since she has dealt with her emotional issues, and she knows how to be honest with herself regarding what she desires. She defines herself before getting involved with a man.

A man who is in total control of himself is mature, very self-assured, and is normally drawn to a strong woman. He understands that a woman, who is in control of her life, has some goals, knows what she wants, knows where she’s going in life, and does not allow anyone to walk over her, especially men. He knows that such a woman is strong enough to stand on her own, and also support him. Unlike so many women who lack confidence, and wait for the perfect man to walk by, this kind of girl is direct, honest ,and does not play games.

When she sees a man who catches her attention, she confidently approaches him, makes small talk, asks for his information, and sees if he is interested in her. If he is, she sends an email, initiates contact and suggests a date. She openly shows her interest in him. If he cannot handle that confidence level, then she does not waste her time, and simply moves on to someone who is mature enough, and ready for what she is looking for. She never takes it as a rejection. He simply was not for her. She does not operate on a man’s time, but rather on her own time.

She takes “chances” in life to fulfill her desires, because she’s not afraid. She also understands “life is too short” to waste waiting for “Mr. Right”. She knows there is no perfect man out there. So she picks one that closely matches her standards. She enjoys being in a relationship for the benefits it provides. She understands that if a relationship does not work out, it is not the end of the world. She does not cry for months, or even days over spilled milk, and realizes that she has to move on to find someone new to start another relationship with. She respects herself, treats other people with respect, is loyal in her relationship, and does not tolerate anyone ill-treating her. She sets limits, and if someone has an issue with her attitude, she knows to adjust, or not to.

Some men will take this attitude as the woman being too aggressive or arrogant. He may even go far enough to sympathize by asking her questions like, “have you been hurt by a man before?” This will not affect her, because she knows it is only the man’s insecurity coming out. Hence she knows not to waste her time with such men. There are bigger and better fish in the sea. There may be some women also who despise her, while secretly envying her attitude. These are the women who are game players, time wasters, waiting for Mr. Perfect to come along, are not open and accepting, too afraid, untrusting, unwilling to take a chance, and holds a long list of why he is not their type. They are also the women who are in ill-treating relationships, but they long to be in a relationship  where their partner will respect and treat her properly.

The babe in total control will be the woman who starts her own business, using her brains and brawns. She will acquire the essential degrees to advance herself in her career. There are going to be some men, and even women who will be intimidated by this. As she climbs the ladder of success ,she will meet like-minded people who will be intrigued with her. She is also aware that even if a man has the same qualifications as she does, both academically and financially, if he is not on her level, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally, then he is not for her. She does not accept any less for herself. She holds herself in high regard, and in high esteem.

Once you begin to operate on these principles, mix in a bit of class, style, and sex appeal, you will soon be an intelligent, honest, straight forward, and knows how to get what you need. There is nothing sexier, or more of a turn on than that. Now that’s a babe in total control of herself.