A Few Good Men

Merrill- Are there any good guys left in the world, I seem to find all the wrong ones, and I am beginning to think that Mr. Right is a myth.  Your insight is desperately needed.
From-Looking for love… but perhaps on the wrong planet?

I get this question all the time, and it is my pleasure to answer it for all of you.

The answer is yes, but you have to know where to look.  For many women, the problem is that they are unconsciously attracting the wrong men.  You may be doing this because of self-esteem issues, abandonment problems, or you really just enjoy getting hurt.

My first word of advice is, not to get consumed by looking for men.  It is when you least expect it, he will be there.  When you let your guard down you will notice that all of a sudden great men are everywhere.  Men can sense desperation, and the wrong guys cling to it.  They are desperate themselves.  Desperation leads to an ignorance of standards.  You begin to want a guy, and any guy will do.  Well is that really who you want to marry, or have children with, any guy.  Of course not, no girl does.  In fact we dream about Mr. Right all the time, what he does for a living, what he wears, and how great his ass looks in those briefs.  I mean come on ladies change your focus.  Instead of worrying about never finding him, stop looking.  Go and take up a new past time like yoga.  Watch some great old movies, and learn to live with yourself.  No one wants to be with someone who defines themselves by whether or not they are single.

More importantly, good men are everywhere, but tend to not be in the places bad men are.  For example, most women go to the club with their friends, and are delighted when they meet a handsome man who looks them up and down, or asks them to dance.  Now let me critically analyze this.  First ladies, when you go to the club it should be to dance, and let loose with your girlfriends, not to find a potential date.  Why you ask?  Well that is simple, if he is out flirting it up with you in the club then what will he be doing if you start dating.  Will he suddenly turn into a home body who hates bars, and flirting with beautiful women? The liklihood of this happening is slim to none.

Instead of looking for the man of your dreams in a smokey, and loud bar.  You will meet good men when you least expect it.  Next time you go to your local library check out the potential men there.  Or when you are grabbing your favorite coffee at Starbucks have a look around.  This way you will increase your chances of finding an intellectual, or someone who enjoys a triple shot, extra foam latte just like you.  That sure beats a man who can beer bong a half sack in record time.

The truth is there are a few good men, but only a few so start your search in your local grocery store, or at a charity benefit.  This way you know you have found a man with a good head on his shoulders.  Instead of getting bummed out about how all men are pigs think to yourself, why am I looking for Mr. Right in a pig pen?

As for ‘Looking for love… but perhaps on the wrong planet?’, thank-you for a great question, and I have faith that your Mr. Right is closer then you think!

Until next time…