Are You Dateless Tonight… Again?

So as the weekend quickly approaches, you find yourself trying to answer that unruly question of what are you going to do this weekend.  Your co-workers ask you it every day of your life, and unlike their amazing plans, you have nothing.  You cannot bring yourself to tell them that you will spend your weekend with your cat watching reruns of Law & Order, so you lie and say you have a date.  They all swoon over you like a flock of hungry seagulls, and they want the dirt.  You make up what Mr. Right looks like, and tell them he is a banker, but you should not have to lie.  What not try to actually get a date this weekend?

So here goes nothing… Get motivated, because this weekend you are going on a date, just follow these instructions.

First, you need to rethink the way you see dating.  You need to see it as a learning experience.  Everyone has awful dates, but you need to have the bad ones to have something to compare the god ones too right?  Really you are not going to be able to figure out what kind of traits Mr. Right has if you do not date a couple of losers first.

You also have to remember that you have to be true to yourself.  Do not try and be what your potential dates want you to be.  Rather, be yourself, and if they do not like that then they are not right for you.  If you fake your personality then the relationship will fail anyways.  Now of course you want to make a good first impression, and perhaps you do not want them to know your obsession with burping the alphabet, but save that stuff for when  you have bonded with that person to a point where you feel comfortable letting them know your little quirks.

When trying to find a date you need to know what it is you are looking for.  Make a list of everything you want in a potential partner, and that way, once you know what you want it will be easier to find.  Maybe you want to date a guy that loves surfing as much as you do.  Well why date someone who hates surfing., that is just a waste of your time.

You also need to figure out why you are dating.  Are you doing it to find someone for a long period of time, or are you just casually dating.  Make sure that you are ready to start dating, and by evaluating why you are dating, you will be able to figure out if you are ready.  Some of us have a lot of baggage that impedes on our ability to date, so figuring this out before you take the step is a good idea.

Remember to have fun.  Maye they are not perfect for you, but hey that does not mean you cannot enjoy yourself.  So put your fancy shoes on, and go have a good time.  You have to try on a lot of shoes before you find the perfect pair.