Asian Online Dating - 3 Steps to True Love

Are you lonely? Eagerly waiting for love and marriage? If you are, Internet dating, in particular Asian online dating sites, may be the solution. But how do you find a like-minded mate when you are relating at arm’s length? Here are three steps for finding true love through online dating.

Take Off Your Mask
We all know it is possible to stay anonymous on the Internet, and Asian online dating sites are not exempt from people wearing masks. You might be tempted to conceal your own “true self” behind a mask when linking to someone online.  However here is something to consider: how would you feel if the person you had been relating to for months online turned out to be someone totally different? What if those values and interests you thought you shared were not genuine?

Keep that feeling in mind while revealing yourself to someone you find striking on an Asian online dating site. That does not mean pouring out your deepest secrets in the first email of course! Common sense dictates shielding your privacy until you know someone better, but do not build up a mask to hide behind if you hope to find genuine love online.

Go Below the Surface
Once you have established you can believe the other person, it is time to really get to know each other. Because people using Asian dating sites to find a mate often do not meet in person until long after the first connection, you will not have the benefit of a face-to-face interaction.  If, however, you spend your time online, on the phone and in letters going below the surface, it is possible to get to know the other person personally. As confidence develops, expose more of yourself and ask questions designed to learn more about the other person. A smart way is to ask open-ended questions, rather than ask if they share your interests and values.
For example, when you want to know if children are in their future plans, you could ask, “Tell me how you feel about having children someday” instead of “I want two children, how about you?”
The first question permits you to hear their feelings about family and parenthood. The second might result in a one word “yes” or “no” that does not disclose much about their inner values.

Give Love Time to Grow
As you move along the road of online dating, and get to know the other person better, you might be tempted to move upwards, for example, meeting in person too soon. As with traditional face-to-face dating, it takes time to really see the person behind that attractive photo.   “Love at first sight” has a nice ring to it, but it could just as simply be a raging hormonal reaction! Protect yourself from heartache by permitting the relationship to develop in stages. Reveal a little more every time you speak, and encourage the other person to do the same. Listen as much as you speak, and try not to convert your own agenda into your potential mate’s responses.

Here’s why this step is so vital: American singles hoping to find love on an Asian dating site face barriers undreamed of by couples living in the same country. In order to be together, they will jump through routine hoops such as, applying for a fiance (K1) visa and finding an immigration lawyer to assist them to meet the legal requirements for marriage.  Love in haste often will not stand the test of immigration statutes. It takes shared obligation to go through the legal steps required to bring an Asian spouse or fiance to the States. A phony attraction will not last long in the face of those obstacles.

Commit yourself, then, to being true when looking for love online. Go below the surface, and really discover the person behind the profile photo. Allow your new love the time it needs to grow and mature before you consider a face-to-face connection. Do not quit! It is possible, with common sense and dedication, to find someone online to share your life. The secret is in looking for love that will go the distance more willingly, than something that will fade away when obstacles appear in your path.