Breakup Warning Signs: Address Them Before It Is Too Late

We have all been there at one point in our lives.  You just finish a nice dinner with your partner, and then next thing you know you are crying in your apartment with a gallon of ice-cream.   You did not even see the break-up coming.  Everything was fine until after dinner… Or was it?

Break-ups do not just happen overnight.  They take time and thought, especially if you are in a real relationship, and not something casual.  You may feel like it was the most unexpected thing in the world, but most likely it was not.  Usually there are a number of break-up warning signs to look for before the event takes place.  Perhaps you were so blinded by love that they passed you by without you even noticing them.  Well, listen to these warning signs, and you can see for yourself.

First, you need to look for changes in behavior with your partner.  Did their work hours suddenly change?  Does this change effect the amount of time you get to spend together?  When you ask them why they changed their schedule, what kind of response do you get?  Is it sincere?  Most people can tell when they are being avoided, but sometimes we would rather not listen to our conscious mind in a hope to out wit it, and make ourselves think everything is okay.  Now this is not to say that everyone who changes their hours is going to break-up with you, but it is something to think about, when it is out of character for that person.

Second, is your partner forgetting to do those things they promised, or have a hard time keeping plans with you?  I mean when you first got together they probably would have moved mountains for you, and that does fade, but is it constantly happening.  Do you feel like you cannot remember the last time they followed through on their plans with you?  That is a key warning sign to look out for.

Thirdly, did your partner forget about your birthday, or your anniversary?  I know I know, what man remembers an anniversary.  Well I will leave that one up to ou.  Have they never forgotten until now.  What did hey do to make it up to you?  If they are genuinely upset with themselves I would not worry too much, but if it is reoccurring, and they do not care, something is up.

Fourth, have they stopped communicating with you?  Have they become distracted by something, and are less willing to talk about things that are going on with their family and work lives. Do you find it difficult to have a good conversation with them?  Communication is the most important thing in a relationship, and therefore if you cannot talk about your lives then what is the point to being in a relationship.  Now of course, the conversation will be limited at ties, but when it becomes non-existent you need help.

Fifth, how is your relationship when it comes to affection?  Do you show more, less, or the same amount of affection as you did when you started dating?  Most likely, you are showing less, but has that amount changed in the last little while, or has it stayed relatively the same?  Do they suddenly not kiss you in public, or hold your hand at the movies.  Have they always rubbed your back at night, and now they just roll over and go straight to bed?  These are the signs you should be looking out for.

Sixth, has your partner stopped asking yo about your life?  Do they not care about how your day at work was, or if you had a good time at the birthday party you went to?  When we are getting ready to breakup with someone, we feel the need to detach them from our lives.  By not allowing ourselves to care about what the other person did today.  It is kind of like ‘out of sight, out of mind’.

Seven, have you caught them in a lie when up until now they have been honest and truthful?  Do you feel like the trust you had in your relationship is gone.  Once the trust in a relationship is gone, it can be very difficult to get back.  In fact, you may be too late to try and rekindle a loving relationship at that point.  You can also be quite sure that any attempt at fixing it is useless, as you see that person as  a liar, and it sounds like they have made up their mind already about the relationship, if they are going to lie to you.

Eighth, are they suddenly being secretive about everything?  From emails to phone conversations, do you feel like they are hiding something form you?  Have they locked their phones, and email accounts, or changed a password?  These are surefire break-up signs, as they do not want you to know something about them that at one point you did.

Finally, have you found that recently you and your partner have been fighting a lot more often?  Do you fight oer even the smallest of issues?  I mean we all go through hard times, but have these hard times turned into more of a regularity?  This can be the make it or break it point, as they may just be finding an excuse to break-up.

As I said, a lot of these signs could just be your day to day activity.  The key here is changes in your behavior, and over a shorter term.  If you have noticed one or more of these signs recently then you need to address the issue.  Tell your partner straight out if you feel like this may be the end.  Tell them that you have noticed a few changes, and you do not want to make a big deal about it, but you do not want the relationship to end.  If you have a chance at saving the relationship, it will only happen if you do something to stop it.  For some couples it may be too late.  Too many things have happened, and too many things have been said to try and change the inevitable, but for others you just needed to open your eyes a bit.