What You Should Not Say In Bed
Sometimes we say the wrong things at the wrong time. Either we are just not thinking, or we have bad timing. We have all said stupid things that we regret saying, and sometimes we even say these things in bed. That is probably the worst possible time we could say these sorts of things.
Here we will go over some of these hilarious phrases that perhaps are better left unsaid.
First, do not mention your mother, or anyone else’s mother for that matter. There is no good time to tell your wife that your mother is coming to visit, let a lone while you are cuddling under the sheets. In fact, the mere mention of the word mother while in bed is a huge no-no.
Do not mention the repairs around the house that still have not been done. The bedroom is no place to mention the hot water tank, unless you would rather spend this time fixing it.
Leave the children out of the bedroom. Unless of course one is crying at the top of their lungs, or you hear smoke alarms or something to that degree. Maybe you just thought of how there is a school play, but hey give yourselves the few minutes you have together, and then worry about the robin hood costume that you forgot to stitch.
Never, and I mean never, mention an ex. Even though you maybe thinking about an ex, you should never bring them up, especially while in bed together. If you choose to ignore this advice, have a great night sleep in the dog house.
This one is for the men. When your wife attempts intimacy, and we never do this as much as you would like us to, then please do not deny us if the ‘game’ is on. If you do, then please do not attempt to get intimate with us when it is over. We see where your priorities are, and obviously we are not as high as the ‘game’ on that list. Therefore, we have taken the matter into our own hands, and perhaps now it is your turn.
No excuses in bed. By this time you should be honest with each other. If you do not want to do it, then just say no. Do not go off about how tired you are, or make excuses that the kids could come in. Just say no. Excuses will become the norm, and it will just aggravate the heck out of the two of you. You will try to get back at one another with… you guessed it more excuses.
Do not comment on your wife’s bedroom attire. So what she has goo all over her face, and her hair is a mess. Remember those vows, for better or worse. Well it is not all roses hunny so suck it up.
The number one, ultimate thing that you should never say to your wife in bed is anything regarding her weight. Even if you say she lost weight, it does not matter. Just never use the word weight in the bedroom. If you do mention it then make plans to sleep on the couch for… the rest of your life.
Well I hope that helps you all out to put an end to these things before you end up in some deep trouble.
Valentine Gift & Date Ideas For A New Valentine
You are dating someone new and its only been a short while. You don’t want to go overboard professing your undying likeness for him or her but what do you do.
The Valentine gift does not need to be a material thing and can be the actual date itself. A past valentine of mine took me to my favourite ballet which was fabulous. Have fun with it and try somethine new. Finding a Valentine gift does not need to be stressful. It should be fun and remember you are still learning more about each other. Here are some examples of fun and unique dates that would be great anytime. Not just Valentines!
A new play
A new movie that he or she wants to see
A new restaurant you both want to try
An ethnic food you are both interested in trying
Check out a local band
A concert
Rent movies that each of you want to see
Go sing karaoke and sing a song he or she likes (cheesy yet fun)
Try a drop in dance class
Salsa dancing
Pottery bowl class (You have to love the movie Ghost)
Glow Bowling
Visit a card reader and take it lightly
Get your palms read
Go wine tasting
Visit a candy shop (A sweet tooth date and I did this once and we got quite the candy loot!)
Ice skating
Roller skating (I can swear by this one. I never knew how to stop but he was there to guide me.ha!)
Zoo
Amusement Park
Make Fondue
Check out a convention
With material gifts there is always the dilemma of what to get. Some people get extravagant but again if it’s only been a short dating time I’m sure your partner is in the same boat trying to figure it out. The above list is to get your creativity going and am sure you can come up with something that your Valentine would like to do together.
If there is an inside joke that you two have it would be fun to try to get a gift pertaining to it. Someone I knew use to put more sugar than coffee in his cup. I made a little sugar basket with the tag “Did you want coffee with that?”. He seemed to like it and thought it was the cutest thing. Darn, I’m cute.
As long as it’s from the heart he or she will know. The most important thing here is to know that you two have found each other.
How to turn a last-minute date into a “Date Night In”
Most of my dating knowledge comes from living with Brian, my roommate of three years, a regular Casanova. I don’t think any of our friends in college suspected that Brian, a nice guy from a small town, would have much luck with the ladies. But the chicks (excuse the bird reference, ladies) flock to him in droves. Week after week there always seems to be a new message on our answering machine from some new hot girl wanting to buy him dinner or to take him to a hockey game. This past Friday night was no exception. When we came home from work the red message light was flickering away on the machine. As usual, all the messages were for Brian.
“You…. have ….two…new…messages.”
I press the button and listen to the start of both messages before skipping to the end.
“Hi, Brian, this is Angie….”
“Hey Bri, it’s Maggie, sorry I miss you…”
The only person who ever calls me at home is my mother. I yell out to Brian that I’m going to take my shower. I want to wash the disappointment of another dateless Friday night off. I also want to mope in self-sorrow and pity. I’m kind of upset that Brian has two girls calling him, and that I get none. Has he taken my ratio of girls from the city? If some guy dates two girls on a Friday night, does that mean another guy has no dates?
Later that night Brian, reeking of cologne, knocks on my door and asks me what my plans are for the evening. I look up from the Halo game on my computer screen and raise my hands in mocked surprise.
“What, a night of playing violent video games isn’t cool anymore?”
“Yea it is. But is that what you’re going to do tonight with Maggie?”
Huh? My face draws a complete blank. Who’s Maggie? Suddenly I’m beginning to recall flashes of the conversation Brian and I had early that week over breakfast. Something about a single girl from his work who wanted to hang out with me this Friday.
“Didn’t you listen to the message that she left on the machine?” Brian asked. “She’s going to be here in less than an hour.”
I look over at the clock and panic sinks in. A girl will be in our apartment tonight, to see me? I beg Brian to stay an extra ten minutes and help me clean the apartment. We each grab a big garbage bag and pick up a week’s worth of clutter, paper plates, old magazines, newspapers, etc. I find the candles my mom got me last Christmas and light them, more to kill the smell of dead air than for atmosphere.
“Just play it cool.” Brian assures me as he steps out the door. “Just be yourself. She’ll like you for who you are.”
Be myself? Before I can come up with a witty response, a pretty brunette walks up to the door and peeps her head in. She smiles the kind of smile that’s authentic and inviting, and it’s evident that she’s a really nice girl. Brian and Maggie exchange hellos, and she then turns all her attention on me.
“Mike? It’s nice to meet you. I’m Maggie.”
“Nice to meet you. I’m Mike.”
Brian rolls his eyes and makes his exit, and suddenly it’s just the two of us standing in the doorway.
“Are we staying in or are we going out?”
“uhhhhhhhh. We’re staying in.” I respond quickly. “It’s better for the economy.”
Maggie laughs. She either thinks I’m funny, or being funny, but I take laughter as a good sign. I take Brian’s advice of being myself to heart, and tell her that we’re going to spend Friday night how I normally spend a Friday night.
“I was thinking we could watch TV and eat some…comfort food.” I work in advertising so I know it’s all in how you package the deal. I’m going to make a regular night in seem super special with trendy words and phrases. The menu of the evening will be composed of comfort food (AKA: macaroni and cheese), old fashion goodness (AKA: bacon crumbs on top of the macaroni & cheese), a classic movie (anything by Adam Sandler), and soul food (a carton of Ben & Jerry’s Rocky Road ice cream). She was going to love it, but I was going to have to sell it.
“People think they need to go out for a good time,” I found myself saying. “But I think you can get to know a person much better hanging out at home. I don’t want to impress you with things, I want you to feel comfortable enough to be yourself.”
I grab two wine glasses off the shelf and check the cupboards for a bottle of wine. I can’t exactly offer a person I just met a shot of tequila, so I reach into the fridge and pull out a carton of milk.
“See?” I hand Maggie a glass of milk. I shake off the negative thought that she might be lactose intolerant. “You can make the most ordinary things special with a bit of effort.”
I watch her as she takes a sip of milk from the wine glass and smile.
“I totally agree. I don’t need to be impressed by fancy restaurants or brand names.”
Inwardly I sigh a huge sigh of relief.
I won’t bore you with the details of our first date in front of the television. Maggie left before 11pm, saying that she had a nice time and that she hoped we could do this together soon. I made her promise to let me take her out to a nice ‘comfort’ restaurant I knew about just so that I could show her that I do know my way around the city. I think for a first date I did pretty well, which makes me all the more nervous for my second date. Did I raise the bar to high?
How to Make a Comfort Night In Date
- Call it a “Date Night In”.
- Candles are a great idea. Thanks, mom!
- Avoid hard alcohol. Brian tried a “Date Night In” with Angie and the bottle of tequila, and it got really messy, really fast.
- Come up with a regular menu, and then rename each item with something more exciting.
- Macaroni and Cheese: comfort food
- Delivery pizza: local delicacy
- Chocolate milk: moon heaven
- Chinese Take-out: New York Style Asian cuisine
- Oreo cookies: A Throw-back dessert
Land that next date! I made sure Maggie promise me a second date before she left.
Dating Tips for Men
She said yes. Yes! You like her and asked her out on a date. Now what? Here are some basic dating tips to ensure that your first date go smoothly.
Take care in your personal hygiene and appearance. This may be an obvious given but someone that I went out with our first date showed up after a soccer game. He was in the game therefore he came straight from the game unshowered and disheveled . Come to think of it, I think I was overdressed versus the soccer uniform.
It’s 2009 but it’s still cool to display good manners and etiquette. Don’t sit in the car if she’s trying to get over a snowbank because there’s no shovelled walkway and you pretend not to hear her asking for your help. One of my fondest moments is someone who wanted me to lift his car trunk because he didn’t want to get his wool coat dirty yet I could get mine dirty. Needless to say that date did not go to a second date.
Be prepared and have a plan. A plan of where you and your date will be heading off that afternoon or evening. If dinner is on the agenda make sure to make a reservation if the restaurant takes them. If the restaurant does not take reservations make sure to find out when they get their busy peak and if there is a lounge where you can wait with your date if it comes to that. It’s always great to pick a place where you can actually conversate with your date and get to know each other.
Make eye contact and listen attentively. There is nothing more attractive than a man that is actually looking into my eyes listening to what I have to say even if it’s just about how much I enjoy sugar. Steer clear of speaking about your last ex-girlfriend(s). It surprises me how many men think it’s okay to tell us their last girlfriend’s name, dress size and how crazy she is. Sigh.
Are you naturally humorous? Add some of your charm into the conversation and watch her laugh with you. Just be yourself. Don’t try too hard otherwise she’ll see right through it.
At the end of the date you usually know if you want to see her again and vice versa. If you plan on actually calling her let her know by throwing another date out there. If not then don’t put it out there if you are really not going to go through with it. There is nothing like ruining the first date than by not calling like a guy says he will. Now make sure to help her over that snowbank.
The Best Places To Meet Asian Women
Are you trying to attract Asian women, and your are not having any luck? If you are then there is something very important you need to know in order to find a date -where to go to meet them. You will know where it is you can meet them, by figuring out where they hang out. This article will give you 7 different places where you can meet Asian girls, and perhaps even score a date with one.
1. Local Community College or University Campus
At any of the local college campuses you will find people of all ages, sizes, and nationalities. You will have no trouble finding all kinds of beautiful Asian women who are ready to socialize with you, and get to know some new and exciting people. You can go to these campuses, and ask for information on the university, and their courses. That way you look like you are interested in attending a college or university. This is a great way of gaining access to a whole slew of beautiful, and smart Asian women.
2. Asian Bars and Night Clubs
Meeting, socializing, and attracting Asian women in the bar can definitely be a challenge for you. They usually get hit on so much that they tend to put their guards up. It is however, still a great place to meet many women in a setting that you will expect to socialize with people. It is a norm that people use bars to meet people, so your chances are good if a bunch of other men have not ruined it for you.
3. Asian Malls
Asian malls are full of women shopping, talking, laughing, sitting, and eating. This is usually a great casual location to get to know people. At a mall it will not seem like you have just gone there to pick up women. You can easily start a conversation with a women that is looking at things that you are interested in as well. This could be at a cell phone store, or even a clothing store. Try commenting on a shirt she is thinking of trying on.
4. Asian Coffee Shops
Coffee Shops are a very common place that Asian women go to meet their friends. When you go to a coffee shop, you can find both educated, as well as beautiful women of Asian descent. Again as you may of found at the malls, you will be able to find very casual and comfortable scenery. She may not have her defenses up, as she will be so relaxed and comfortable, more so then at a club.
5. Asian Bookstores
Another fantastic place to meet the woman of your dreams is the local Asian bookstore. It is very easy to find topics to discuss, so there is no need to worry about how to start a conversation. Depending on the section that you meet the lady in, you can always see what books or journals she is looking at. Try asking her if she has ever read a particular book, or ask for suggestions for a good book to read.
6. An Asian Church
Church is a great place to meet a wholesome Asian woman, as well as a great place to meet friends. A lot of churches now have very active singles groups that you can become a part of, and meet people on a regular basis. Most churches are very open to new people joining these groups, so you should have nothing to worry about if you are not a part the same religion.
7. Through Friends
Your social circles include your family, friends, co-workers, and maybe even some other acquaintances. A lot of long lasting relationships are the result of couples that will have met each other through friends. The advantage of meeting somebody through your social circle, is that the woman will be a lot more comfortable, and relaxed because she met you through a mutual friend. This is because she trusts that these people know what their friends are all about. Her guard will be down, making it easier for you to get to know her.
Palm Reading to Pickup Women
One of the sleekest tactics to attract women is to pretend that you can read her palms. This is especially true if you have been trying to figure out a way to talk to her for while. So what should you do if you have no idea how to read someones palms? Well, the answer is -fake it! Reading palmistry does not have to be real! That is the best thing about it, you can make it up as you go. You may have seen men in the process of reading a woman’s palm. Do you think they have ever read palmistry? Do you think they go to a college or a school to learn palmistry? Did they read it in a book? Or browsed it online? The answer is an obvious NO! The reality is that they pose as if they know something about reading palms when really they are just interested in picking up the girl.
This article will give you an idea of how to read someones palms without actually knowing how. It is really just acting, and if you are good at it, you will be an expert at fake palm reading. It may be funny and entertaining for you, but it will definitely help pick up the ladies. It is really just a guess at what a real palm reader would have said and done - with the ability to keep her entertained!
Step 1 - Grab her hand and pretend to look at it deeply, then point to any random crease you see and say, “you see that crease there? Well if you have only 1 crease, you have only been in love once. If you have 2 creases, then you have an average love life! But when you have 3 creases, you are considered a goddess in bed”. Likely she will blush, and become embarrassed. If she says you are lying then reply with, “hey! I did not make up the rules. I am just telling you what your palm is telling me”.
Step 2 - Point to some other random line and say, “this line represents your heart. It tells me that you are very gentle, and that you are thoughtful of others”.
Step 3 - Spot another line and tell her, “this line represents your brain. The length means sometimes you imagine things, and you over analyze what other people are saying at times”.
Step 4 - Point at a final line and remark, “this line stands for your fate. This means sometime very soon you will meet this wonderful guy at [insert the place where you met her]. Both of you are going to have a great time together. That special somebody will be sitting with you in [describe where you are sitting], and then he is going to pretend to be able to read your fate by looking at your palms. This guy is going to be wearing [describe what you are wearing], and he is one good looking guy, he looks like [describe yourself]. I can tell that you two are really going to connect, and have a great time with each other, what do you think?”
If she responds positively to your question, then you know that your pick up palm reading was a success. If she responds negatively, then move on to your next culprit. Simple, fun, and effective! Who needs to study how to actually read palms when faking it is so easy? It is all in good fun, and hey you may find someone who is perfect for you, and can put up with your crazy antics. The events will make a perfect story for your children one day when they ask how you met.
What’s In A Name When It’s Not Yours!
Remember Michael? If you don’t, let me refresh your memory here.
He did call and asked to take me out to dinner without running into my ex this time around! I was looking forward to it. He wanted to do both a movie and dinner which was great for he told me to choose something I wanted to see. Always a plus.
By the end of the movie we were both looking forward to dinner. Dinner was going fantastic with ongoing conversation and I found out he loves to write. He shared details about the manuscript he was working on for a science fiction book. I love reading and writing so this impressed me. In the middle of dinner his cell phone went off which he answered. I thought it was kind of rude for apparently it wasn’t an emergency. Well maybe for him.
I could hear a female voice on the other line. Now before you guys bite my head off!! Let me tell you. We girls just know when something is up. I could hear her on the other end and Michael was having the time of his life laughing with her on the phone. He even excused himself from the table still on the phone. I have never had a date excuse himself to speak on his cell phone. In fact if they did answer their phone, they were always quick enough to get off the phone apologizing to me. I was debating whether I should order an entire chocolate cherry cake and leave.
I was on my way to ordering the chocolate cherry cake and he arrived back to the table. I swear he was gone for at least 10 minutes. He was still smiling when he came back and didn’t apologize. Instead he explained that his friend was at work and after our dinner we could drop off HIS leftover food and a slice of cake to her. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all for opposite sex friends for most of my friends are male but this was just getting weird.
What? I blinked. He repeated himself. He paid for dinner and got the waitress to get an extra slice of cake to go. Anyways, we left the restaurant and he told me his friend’s work was just twelve minutes away. Wow, talk about precise. We arrived at a shoe store that apparently was open 24 hours or not. I could see they had just closed but a young girl let us inside the store. Maybe all of 18 years old. Did I mention Michael is in his mid-thirties? He walked with her to where the til was and another employee peeked her head out from the back to see who was there.
Michael introduced me and she looked me up and down. She gave me that look…come on girls….you know that look…. and then stroked Michael’s arm thanking him for the food. We left and he told me he’s known her for six months and that they use to date briefly but she called it off. I was almost right with the age thing. He told me she just turned 19. I’m good. He leaned over to kiss me.
Michael: So Clarissa..I mean Miss. Belle…where do you want to go now?
His face turned beet red. Clarissa was eating his leftover potatoes in between cleaning up shoes. He knew where to go.
Effective Ways to Deal With Jealousy
Even though it is easy to enter into a new relationship, it is really tough to maintain the bond without fighting, or arguing. Many smaller problems that add up may lead to the end of your relationship. Jealousy is one of those annoying problems in any relationship. If this problem is left unaddressed, jealousy can grow, and will increase the chances for more serious problems to occur later on. This is why it is essential for couples to deal with jealousy as soon as it appears in their relationship.
Jealousy is like an injury, that if left untreated, it can worsen and potentially demolish an otherwise beautiful and happy relationship. Dealing with jealousy is a very complicated process. This is because frequently one party, or both will deny feeling any jealousy at all. They believe it makes them appear weak, when really it is a quite normal feeling.
Jealousy is a relative term. What could be normal jealousy to some people, might be an overreaction to others. Other people feel that their jealousy is justified, while others would regard it as being unnecessary, and a signal of being suspicious of one another. This is the reason why couples can get unreasonable while discussing the topic of jealousy. Most of the time these feelings play an important role in relationships, and get in the way of a balanced discussion about ones true feelings of jealousy. This is the reason behind why couples who discuss jealousy openly end up resolving the issue, rather than making the matter worse.
Couples must comprehend that all forms of jealousy stem from a lack of trust, and from fear that their partner may leave them, and seek a new relationship. Jealous people, more often than not, are frequently afraid of being dumped by their lover. This is why when dealing with jealousy in a relationship you should look at your partner’s issues, as well as your own issues regarding lack of confidence, or a lack of trust. To do that, you must be ready to confront your own feelings. Try to discover where these feelings are coming from, and deal with it before it comes up again. To do this you must try to be as rational as possible. Try to think if there really is a reason not to trust your partner. It is possible that the source of your jealousy is only imaginary.
The most effective way of dealing with jealousy in a relationship is to augment the trust between you and your partner. To trust someone you must open up to the other person, and make yourself susceptible to getting hurt. If you are not ready to trust anyone, then maybe you are not mature enough to enter into a serious relationship yet. If you are not ready to fully trust your partner, then jealousy will always find its way into your relationship.
Dealing with jealousy is essential if you are going to maintain a healthy and happy relationship. You must do everything you can to keep jealousy at bay, if you want your relationship with your partner to last.
The Importance of Food in Relationships
Falling in love is one of the best feelings in the world. Although love is primarily focused on matters of the heart, the smallest things in life can contribute to a successful relationship, even food.
Everyone must be familiar with the old saying ‘the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.’ This is not far from the truth. In fact, there is an emphasis on what we eat, how we cook it, and its nutritional value. For example, what if you are dating a vegetarian, or what happens if you live on Kraft Dinner, but your partner enjoys a nutritious meal everyday.
It is quite traditional that many couples have a preference to visit only those places that are less crowded, and offer them privacy to talk. They may order something simple like, a pair of sandwiches, and coffee while enjoying each others company. Young couples and college goers find this kind of dating to be a good ice breaker.
For a little more matured couple, particularly if they are working they may wish to go to a more stylish place. These restaurants are silent with subdued light, and have a romantic atmosphere. The dinner can be started with a wine of their choice, and progressing to order the dishes that appeal to both of them. It is very important to order the right kind of food on a date, as it sets the atmosphere for a romantic evening. If the food ordered is a burger and fries it may ruin the mood for the rest of the evening.
These couples can also plan an evening at home, and have a cozy, romantic home cooked dinner. It is again very important here to cook the right kind of food, in which your partner likes, and that will add flavor to your evening at home. You must discuss each others likes and dislikes well before the dinner. The food you serve not only has to be of the right kind, but also of good quality in all aspects. So take a little time off to determine the correct recipes of the dishes you are going to prepare.
If your partner is not a fussy eater, and does not have too many allergies, cook any dish which you are good at. This way you are sure to serve a tasty meal, and you can be confident that your partner will like it. Also give some thought to how you are going to serve the food. Set the table warmly for two, with candles and flowers. This gives the date a romantic atmosphere as if you were in a restaurant. This is sure to please and impress your partner.
Certain items are always linked to love and romance. Chocolate is a great start. Many men give a box of chocolates to their sweethearts on a date. The next one is of course wine or champagne. A romantic dinner is set with a glass of wine, or champagne. There are also some beliefs that certain foods like, strawberries, oysters, carrots, asparagus, ginger, honey, pine nut, and mustard are ‘love foods’ or aphrodisiacs. Historically they have been tested, and proven to have affected the pursuit of love.
Dating and Loving - How Do You Know If You Have Found “The Right One”?
Each and every one of us has our own special combination of personality traits, attitudes, skills, behaviors, educational backgrounds, values and beliefs. We have each been born into a unique family scenario with a certain number of siblings, and a specific birth order. Our biological parents shape our own genetic traits, from their nationalities, and from their own families of origin. All the personal experiences we have had will tend to either strengthen or weaken our core beliefs, attitudes, behaviors and our self-esteem.
As infants, our needs and behaviors are quite simple and similar to one another. When we are feeling hungry, hurt, or emotionally upset, we cry or even scream. When we are happy or content, we smile or we laugh aloud in delight. However, as we grow older our personalities change and gradually become more complex. We have all heard stories about defiant teenagers who speak rudely to their parents, and other authorities as they continue to develop into maturing adults. What we do not usually hear about is the totally complex nature of love and relationships.
Many factors need to interconnect in order to make us feel that we have found our soul mate. Our family scenarios need to match in some important ways so that we can feel accepted and understood. For example, one person may come from a loving family with happily married parents, and who rarely fight. The other person that seems to be so loving and appealing may have parents who had numerous affairs, and several divorces. If these two people get into a relationship, the differences between them can potentially create a great deal of heartache and distress. The person from the loving family expects attention, sharing and regular expressions of love. The person from the problematic family feels smothered rather than appreciative, creates a distance, is less willing to show their true feelings, is less willing to make a full commitment, and is more likely to find a way to escape if a situation becomes too emotionally difficult.
Yes, these couples can go for counseling and gain advice and awareness to keep the relationship healthy and intact. Will they be happy? Of course, there are some couples who have overcome such deeply rooted differences, and help each other to grow into a loving couple.
The most likely scenario if no help is sought out, is months or years of anger, resentment, misunderstandings, demands, and finding excuses to escape. The emotional pain often intensifies as the personal self-esteem and trust in relationships diminishes.
So, how do you know if they are “The Right One?” It certainly does not begin at the moment that you meet a new and attractive potential partner. In fact, it begins as soon as you realize the necessity to self-reflect and discover your own bottom line needs, desires, and preferences. When you are secure in knowing, accepting and acknowledging your own self worth and value, then you can clearly assess how a potential partner fits or does not fit into your life.
For example, when you give up trying to force a round peg into a square hole. This goes for your relationships as well. If the object of your desire does not reciprocate in a way that supports your dreams and goals, then it is time to let go, and move on.
