He’s Just Not That Into You

The popular phrase that everyone laughs about even when you jokingly say it to the guy you are dating. You meet your girlfriends for lunch or dinner and the topic of dating always come up into conversation even without even drinks! It doesn’t matter if you are 14, 20, 30 and so forth. It will always be the same question you wonder about when you are dating someone new. Does he like me?

True story scenarios with tons of laughter from the table because when you’re asking it out loud explaining the situation it then seems too clear that hey he’s not that into you.

With some of my friends who are very particular on a man’s profession I myself  like dating someone who at least loves what they are doing versus someone who appears miserable and complains about their work at all times. So I have dated business professionals, entreprenurs, computer geeks to club bouncers. Go figure that the latter ones always seemed to be happier except for one that I just recently met.

We went out for coffee and he could not stop talking about the ex-girlfriend which is always fun to hear. I meant that with sarcasm but I really wonder why men don’t get that the new date doesn’t really need to hear how awful she was. As women we don’t want to get a hint of what may be coming if we were to get into a relationship and split up. Personally I think I’ve only met one or two men in my whole lifetime of dating who did not speak about their ex-girlfriends. It was very refreshing! Maybe as women we are just more considerate and choose not to speak about
our ex lovers and all. Hmm.

Anyways, this club bouncer and I met up in the week for coffee. Here was the thing. I was introduced to him at the actual club so it was loud and noisy right. When I actually met him in person I actually could hear his voice now and it didn’t match the physial part of him. It was completely distracting to me in conversation to say the least. Totally threw me off for it was high pitched and he was all of 6′3″ displaying some good pipes. ha.

Anyways, I should have known from the get go from the coffee place he picked out for us which was pretty isolated and unknown. Well coffee is coffee and when it comes to my coffee I’m open. Instead of having an open conversation it turned into a one-sided conversation with him ranting about his ex-girlfriend who he split up with 5 years ago and how awful she was. It always makes me cringe for I don’t the woman or any of the exes I hear about so I know realistically there are always three sides to the story. The truth fits in between the two.

I figured this bouncer obviously needed some closure for all the anger he was throwing out into our coffee cups and I wasn’t the right person for it. He called me this afternoon and I had to tell him in the middle of his ex-talk that I had to get ready for a big party tonight which is true. It’s better to be honest with someone so I’ll be speaking to him tommorrow and letting go of this new guy and his ex-girlfriend. Oh well, c’est la vie!