How Long Should You Talk With a Woman You Just Met?

Everyone knows very well that public speaking ranks pretty high on the list of what people normally fear the most. It is also funny to note, that the same men have quite a bit of trouble talking with a woman, when they meet them for the first time. Most of the dating advice they look for is specifically about, “how to carry on a conversation with a new woman; long enough for her to become attracted to them?”  What is the most suitable answer to this question?  Well it depends on a few different factors.

Good conversation skills make you more likable, and are more enjoyable to the opposite sex. It is simply not enough to know only the right things to talk about. It is good idea to remind yourself of a famous Spartan, which once said, in typical laconic Spartan wit, “A good speaker knows not only what to say, but when.” In other words, it is important to know and understand the right thing to say, at the right time. You must also know when and how to end a conversation when you want a relationship to get off on the right foot.

This also means that, when you come across a woman whom you would like to get romantically involved with down the line, you will need to end the conversation as early as possible. This may sound weird to hear the first time, but the trick is when you end the conversation early and ask for her e-mail or phone number, you will be arousing a curiosity in her that will make her to look forward to meeting you the next time. There is also a chance that she might not even be able to hold back this curiosity, and she may call you up first, instead of you calling her!

The reason behind this is that ending a conversation early creates a little “sexual tension” between you and her. She will be left wondering what you are doing afterwards. If she asks, and you tell her that you have got to get back to work, or meet other people, it will give her the idea that you are one of those exceptional guys, who actually has their act together - this is very, very attractive to women indeed.

You must also know what will happen if you have tried to carry on a conversation for too long. Unless you are a very interesting person to talk with, you will run the risk of saying something stupid, or simply boring her as the conversation wears on. She may eventually get bored of it, and you may even fail to create a good impression. This is not what you need in this situation, right?

So as a conclusion, if you really do want to become one of her good friends or get romantically involved with her, keep her fascinated with a long and funny conversation. But if you think you cannot impress her by just your conversation, you can easily finish your talk by keeping things short, getting her e-mail or phone number, and saying “see you later.” Any of these options can help you to establish a good relationship with her.