How To Use Her Nervousness to Your Advantage

As you get better with approaching new women, you will find it very easier to just walk up to a woman, say “hi,” and ask for her name. You will moreover realize that most women are actually nice, and will talk to you, while only a few are aloof or act cold towards you. However, what do you do when she suddenly acts nervous while talking to her?

Nervous women are a cute bunch — their eyes dash to the floor when you say hi, they fidget their fingers through their hair, and laugh sheepishly each time she says anything. It does not even matter if they look attractive and self-sufficient, the right approach can send shivers up their spine.

Now, friendly women are easy enough to deal with — after all, it is easy to get an enjoyable conversation out of them. Unfriendly women are also easy to deal with — you just say, “thanks for the time,” and walk quietly away. However, nervous women are a different class; neither of the two previous approaches seems to be a good idea to do!  To deal with nervous women successfully, you will need to initially understand why they feel nervous around you. Consider it — women especially the more attractive ones, are repeatedly approached. These women are almost certainly used to seeing a man trying to act gentlemanly, kissing up to them, and trying to make up to their tastes. This is usual.  However, when a person comes along who does not seem to be affected by her beauty or charm, she immediately wonders what is wrong. She gets questions like- is he not attracted to me? Why is he talking to me so easily? Why is he making me feel this way? This is why women at times feel nervous around certain men — they merely do not know how to react.
In other words, if she is nervous around you, then it is a good indication that she is feeling strange emotions towards you. However, if you keep trying to talk to her, you will make her even more nervous — and that can force her to turn around and walk away. Naturally, you would not want that to occur.

So what is the best thing to do in such a situation? Simple — just go halfway between finding a motivating conversation, and walking away. In other words, get her phone number!  If she is acting nervous, just get ready to leave. Nevertheless, before you do, ask if you can have her number. You will keep her jumpiness from rising, but simultaneously you are giving her the opportunity to see you again. If she is a nice girl, she will give you her number. You can then get in contact with her after a few days, to ask if she would like to meet up for coffee or tea later in the week.

Here is a suggestion — ask for her e-mail initially. E-mail is less disturbing than phone calls, since she can take her time in typing up a reply, and she does not have to really go out of her way to take your call. Ask for her e-mail first, and then her number. The appealing conversation can wait until the first date, so take it slow.