Sometimes The Truth Hurts

We have all been there at one point in our lives.  We are madly in love with someone, but cannot tell just how much they love us back.  Love can blind us all, and make us think and feel things that are not really there.  It is a good idea to try and evaluate if the person you are in love with really loves you back, or if they are just playing you for a fool.  Here we will go over a few warning signs hat you are being led on, and that way you will be equipped with the tools you need to tell if you are being played.

Scenario 1

So you have just started dating a new partner, and to your surprise you see that your partner still has their profile on online dating sites, and it is set at single.  This is a classic sign that your partner has not made a commitment to be with you exclusively, and is obviously seeing other people.  I would confront hem, and see what they say.  If they act surprised give them another chance, but if not then let them casually date… someone else.

Scenario 2

You have been dating someone online for quite awhile, but every time you bring up the idea of meeting they always suggest somewhere far away from where they live.  What is most likely going on in this situation is they have a spouse, or a really dirty house.  I would confront them, and ask them why they never suggest meeting closer to where they live.  You should be able to tell if they are lying just from looking at them, and hearing how they respond.

Scenario 3

You have met someone online, and have been talking to them for awhile now.  They are always telling you that they have such a great job, and a nice expensive car, but every time you see them they are taking the bus, and their car is in the shop.  The story just does not add up, and they seem to good to be true.  Again, I would confront them, and ask if they were lying about their job, or their car.  There is no point in starting a relationship based on a lie.

Scenario 4

You have been dating someone online for a couple months.  However, you have never met in person.  They tell you that they really want to meet, but cannot afford to fly out to meet you.  So you tell them that you will pay for it, and wire them the money.  This is a well known scam, and and men are usually the targets.  You will most likely never hear from this person again, so keep your money in your wallet.

Scenario 5

You have only been taking to this person online for a few days, and already they want to hear that you are committed to them.  You feel like thing s are moving too fast.  Be careful of this situation.  This is a classic sign that you are being manipulated by someone who is controlling, and perhaps even abusive.