Surviving That Bad Breakup

When relationships take a turn for the worse it takes a strong couple to get through it.  Some will not make it, and it is one of the most horrible feelings in the world.  Surviving a break-up seems impossible, but it is not.  Help is here!  Try these tips to mend that broken heart, and have the ability to move on to finding your true soul mate.

Your friends and family are like your break-up rehab.  They should be treated accordingly.  Your friends will be there for you longer then any boyfriend or girlfriend will be.  They are your shoulder to cry on, and the one that will be there to distract you from the harsh reality of what has just happened.  Try not to push them away, even though it may be your natural reaction.

Get to know yourself again.  We all do it when we are in relationships, we put our significant others before ourselves, and begin to shape our lives around someone else.  A break-up is a good chance to see how much of you has been lost in the midst of it all.  Take a walk alone, go have a coffee alone, rent a sappy movie and watch it by yourself.   Any of these things will give you a sense of self-empowerment, which you so desperately need.

Reflect on what happened.  Really try to think about what went wrong.  When relationships fail it is never one persons fault, it usually has something to do with the both of you.  Even if you were cheated on there is usually something that went wrong in order for this to happen.  It could be a sign you missed; did they know how much you appreciated them?  Did you rush into the relationship because you were too blinded by love?  What does love even mean to you?  You should consider all of these things when reflecting on what has happened.  It will hurt, but it will help you in the long term.  This relationship was obviously a mistake, and in order to learn from it, you need to reflect on the mistakes you made.

Take some time off in the relationship department.  Do not rush into another one right away, or dabble in casual sex with anyone.  It will only hurt you more in the end.  You will begin to feel jaded, and will lose your meaning of sex, and what it is to ‘make love’.  The opposite sex can sense your vulnerability, and will try to take advantage of you, sexually, emotionally, or financially.  Of course, you can have fun, but try to keep that fun from under the covers for a while.

Put away the memories.  Memories will be there forever good or bad.  There is no magic switch to get them out of your head.  But you can get them off your walls, out of your cupboards, and into a nice resting place.  Keep your memories of that person in your heart, but out of your sight until you are strong enough to abolish them forever.   If your mutual friends cannot be packaged up, and put away, just tell them what is going on, and when you are ready nature will take its course.  If they do not understand then they were probably never really your friends.

The rest is up to you.  Remember, even though you broke up, you will never be alone.