What To Talk About On A First Date

Dating someone new is exciting but can cause anxiety for that first date. If you are set for a date this weekend sometimes your biggest worry is what you will talk about. Before your date a usual chat with a good friend reassures you not to worry about the date and that it will go fine but how do they know?! You may be shy or when it comes to dating you get all flustered and have no idea where to begin.

Conversation that begins easily and flows well can come with some easy tips to remember on your first date for either person. Just remember this is a date and not an interview. I have met people who shared they actually bring their questions not so cleverly hidden into their daily agenda planners. Not so subtle when you’ve got it sitting open in front of you at the date ticking the questions off as you ask them. I’ve also come across people who say they ask the questions over the telephone wanting to avoid bringing it along on their dates but guess what, people aren’t stupid. They are onto you. It’s a big turnoff even before the date has begun.

Stay clear of personal questions and topics over dinner. These would include asking what happened in their last relationship that went wrong. It’s hard to believe that so many people ask these questions right off the bat and then amazes me how much men and women get upset by hearing too much information. Remember if you ask such questions this opens the door that your date can talk about anything and plainly some of it is none of our business.

Being on the subject of past relationships, it is also not wise to openly talk about your last ex or who you just finished sleeping with. This makes me choke on my wine when men start talking about how crazy their last ex was and what she did without me ever asking. Most of the time people don’t want to hear about the last love of your life or play date. Have respect for the person you are out on a date with and place yourself in their shoes. If there are things you wouldn’t want to hear, why would you talk about it.

Don’t bring up sensitive subjects such as religion or politics. Just because you love discussing politics with your co-workers it doesn’t mean your date wants this relaxing evening turning into a political debate. There is a time and place and the first date it is not. Some people worry that they don’t know enough about politics and are nervous if someone brings it up. These days we live in a world where religion is a very touchy subject. Some people have their own religion that they follow and some don’t believe in it. You have to approach that subject when the time comes but the first date should be light and fun.

We spend most of our day at work so don’t re-hash how much your boss pissed you off this week. Work is work. Leave it there. It’s great to find out what each other’s careers are but too much talk can be a sign that someone is a workaholic.

All in all both of you have taken the time to spend this time together getting to know each other. Don’t panic if there is silence. It sounds cliché but just be yourself. First dates are exciting and remember that both of you are hoping that conversation will flow.